Deposit Letter

There is no need to look Wisteria Lane in your neighborhood. Desperate Housewives may be everywhere, Desperate Housewives for the love and attention from their husbands, that is. According to the senior psychologist Dr. John M. Gottman, men are often emotionally deficient when it comes to expressing love and admiration to their spouses. Well, it is time to reverse this trend.

love letters. Did you and your wife exchange them when you were dating and engaged? Personal love letters are one of the most revered that husbands and wives communicate. Drafting and writing a personal letter of love takes energy, thought and time. In fact, the success of enrichment programs, such as marriage Marriage Encounter depends on how willing the spouses share their feelings, affection and other, with each other.

Dr. Gottman's book, the seven principles for making marriage work, based on the concept of making regular deposits into a joint account bank emotional. One building exercises affection and admiration thinks and writes to his positive feelings for the other spouse. In a sense, a personal love letter is a form of honeymoon every day that a husband can give freely to his wife. Here are eight rules to follow.

Rule number one: that the personal letter Positively
Putting it in writing can be read, recorded and replayed. The first rule for a personal love letter is to give a personal dimension and positive. Love letters to convey a message of the value of a husband who affirms and cherishes his wife. Thus, it is essential to make a list of positive things about your wife that you want to make. Avoid criticism, ambivalent remarks. Let them focus on what you cherish your wife.

Rule number two: It's About Her
A personal love letter is a direct communication to and with your wife. Use the word "you" early and often. Share your feelings. My parents have been married for over 55 years. The 80th anniversary of my mother, our family gave personal testimonies that we have recorded and put on a DVD. My father got up and used the song, "You mean all the world to me." He choked with emotion in front of us all and it was so powerful to witness the love he had for his wife. Make your wife feel special, too.

Rule number three: Start with a special Endearment
If you have a special name for your wife to use. Write a personal greeting, such as - My best ______________ (name of your wife) - Dear amazing of my life - You are the best thing that happened to me

Rule number four: Make it specific and meaningful
With a little practice, writing a personal love letter becomes a great habit! Make sure the words you write things that are specific and meaningful to express your marriage, you and your wife. For example, you can write a personal love letter on the birth of a child, an anniversary, a special thanks for favors done, or for any reason you can find. (Remember, the more reasons, the more letters!)

Rule Number Five: End With Love
Do not just write: "Well, that's all." Get creative romantic. Use something that sums up your feelings and lets your wife know that you still love him. Terminators use as Forever Yours, All my love, with love forever, I'm so glad you are my life, You mean the world to me. Then enter your name.

Rule number six: Make It Pretty
Women love to have a special gift and the packaging is often as important as what is inside. In other words, do not write your personal love letter on the back of a paper bag. Be pretty. Use special stationery (you can visit a scrapbook store and buy a single sheet of less than 50 cents.) Or write your letter in a romantic greeting card. Use your handwriting, too. Card typing on a computer seems artificial and mechanical.